like a herd of cattle

Hey I am all into this internet, social media and smartphone thing.

I have made friends all over the world and have found old acquaintances from college and high school here on Facebook.[ I was not popular in high school but that is a topic for another post.]

I get the whole thing.

But here is something I don’t understand at all and it is best described in a scene that played out recently in front of my own eyes.

Recently I was at Mizner Park in Boca Raton. The “girl” and I just finished our lunch at one of the eateries and we took a seat on a bench to savor the afternoon sunshine and atmosphere.

From my right appeared four millennials – two couples walking two by two – women by women,in front of the two men by men. [ think herd of cattle ]

Heads down, all engaged with their smartphones.

No conversation.

At all.

Fast forward thirty minutes

And

Who appeared to my left…that herd of cattle.

Two couples walking the same pattern – walking two by two – women by women in front of the two men by men.

And

Not a single word spoken between them. Heads down.Tapping away.

If they were they “speaking “ with each other, I have no clue.

Now call me old fashioned [ please ] but I DO NOT GET IT.

Have we gone too far?
Has the art of simple conversation died?
Do we really no longer want to enjoy each others company?
How can a piece of machinery, a smartphone, be more interesting that a person? Hey>>>

Is eye contact a lost art?

I find this so sad, not only to the “cattle” but to society as a whole. You and I, all of us will not be around in fifty years but can you imagine what it is going to be like? It might be very quiet with the lack of decent conversation. Who knows, the human race might lose their ability to speak…

If you have read this post till the end, I would love to hear your thoughts…

this is not minimalism

this is NOT less is MORE.

this is just silly and has nothing
to do what I stand for.
my less is more lifestyle is realizing
that you can have a perfectly
exceptional life with less “stuff”.

less “stuff” means not only less physical items
and less “stuff’ that has no place in
your head.

and I have found out that less things
floating around in my head allows me
to grow, lead a peaceful life and bring
joy to those around me.

this is a less is more life.

#lessismore….always folks.

easing into your day

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I have a box next to my bed where I keep ideas for these
posts. I am probably like you, my greatest ideas [ so I think ]
come just as I am about to fall asleep.

You too?

I guess this is because our minds and bodies are relaxing, switching
off so to speak.

A few weeks back I wrote an article about breaking your routine
and sometimes that is a good thing, sort of an adventure. But today
I want to talk about the positive aspects of a routine.

And

Easing into your day.

I learned something recently. I have a holiday guest staying
with me for a while.

Each morning he wakes up and switches on the tablet and looks
at the news, he might turn on the radio or television AND this
is so unlike anything I do.

I ease into my day [ routine or no routine ] and I cannot
imagine starting my day any other way.

I walk Miss Evie, cause a girl has got to go after such a long
sleep.

I then do some quite meditating. A dear friend just gave me a
great app called Calm. Google it, it is great.

I then do some reading and writing [ in today’s environment it is
called journaling – but at the end of the day it is writing ] I write
my thoughts, my ideas and the people, events and things
that have brought me joy.

I ease into my day.

No loud music
No loud noise from the television.
Quiet

Now I know this is not possible for everyone. I get it>>>
But

I encourage you to ease into your day the best you can, it is so
rewarding, it is so calming and peaceful.

So

Try it and let me know in our Facebook group or hit
that reply button and fill me in.

less is more,my friend
less is more.

a balanced life

Balance.

The old me did not have a clue as to what constituted a
balanced life.

Today I woke up very early, made myself a cup of tea and
crawled back into bed to read.

The old me would never have done that.

The old me would have jumped onto computer and started to
“work”.

The old me did not realize that that sort of drive did not
produce more, but less.

Do you see a theme here?

The old me never understood that in order to succeed in
life you [ finger pointing ] you must have balance.

Balance.

Between
Family
Fun
Business
Exercise
Eating
Faith… and I could go on…

Do you live a balanced life?

so why not >>>gift ideas for Fort Lauderdale

I have a suggestion.

But first let me set the scene.

Black Friday is behind us [ don’t get me started on this one ] and the
big countdown to the December holidays.

Whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or Christmas tis the season
to shop. A lot.

Crowded malls,
Crowded parking,
Crowds of people.

This year why not turn back the clocks to a time when>>>>

You made a card.
You made a gift

All by hand.
With thought
And with care.

No standing on lines
No mad dash to spend crazy amounts of money.

Simple.

Love.

Why not?

less is MORE | the coffee trick

less is more coffee

So they say drinking too much caffeine is bad for you. It
is said that consuming excess amounts of coffee or tea is
dehydrating.

And

Hey as I mature this is the last thing I want to do… we
are talking wrinkles here and well…. enough said.

So

In this battle to stay hydrated I have got into the habit of
drinking water, a lot of water.

And [ here is today’s tip ]

I use a smaller cup to drink my morning coffee. Sounds
simple but it works.

Me thinks that because there is less to drink I savor every
sip. And a bonus is because I am savoring every mouthful I tend
to drink slower.

I stop
I drink
I think

It’s a really good trick.

Let me know if you try it…

You know the drill…less is MORE…always

back to front | de-clutter tip

It is my wish that as the weeks roll by
and you read my thoughts on a
less is MORE lifestyle, a minimalist lifestyle you will be
inspired to take action, even a small step.

And

Today

I have one tip to start you on your
way to declutter your closet not only in Davie, Miami or Fort Lauderdale, Florida but in your spot on the planet.

So

Let’s talk ce-cluttering the clothing in your closet

If you are

Not sure which item[s] to donate or
give away?

Here is a tip on determining if you are
getting use out of your clothes.

decluttering in fort lauderdale,tips, less is more carolyn chebaro

Turn the hangers back to front.
Wait one month
Review
Any article of clothing that still has its hanger in the back to front position
You have not used.
Toss
You haven’t worn this skirt, pair of trousers,top or dress in a month.

That item has no purpose, no value. Maybe you do not
feel good in that dress, or top? Doesnot matter.
This article of clothing is taking up space.

Donate it, sell it, pass it on.

Easy

Peesy

Next.

And

BTW

I would love to know if you follow this tip.

human contact

human contact less is more

I was sitting on my balcony this past week having
My coffee and nibbling at an orange. I do this most
Mornings [ yes, I admit, I am very lucky ]

During this time, I watched two young men
greet each other.

Their meeting caught me to by surprise.
The two did not shake hands but hand punched each
Other. [ Gosh I hope I got that right, the hand punching thing.
You know where people acknowledge someone by putting their
Knuckles to knuckles .

I have seen this before but never really contemplated this
action.

Interesting how gestures have changed over the year and yet
remain the same.

In my world a firm handshake is appropriate. If I am familiar
With the other party this turns into a hug.

This knuckle to knuckle communication made me
realize that the more things change, the more
they remain the same.

Human contact, in whatever form is very
important.

Sure it is great to host a business meeting online.
using say, zoom or one of the other online meeting
programs.This form of communication saves time, money and energy.

But that human contact, that knuckle to knuckle is
so important. It lifts me up, makes me feel part of the whole.

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It gives me MORE of a feeling of
belonging.

trust your gut

carolyn chebaro less is more

If you follow me on Facebook you probably have seen
My posts on “following your gut”.

It recently occurred to me that I have never put “Pen to
Paper” on this subject …. So here goes.

For me

This gut thing is:

~Listening to that inner voice, my personal radar system [ go for it, go for it ]
~That feeling that I get in the pit of your stomach [ turn right- turn left ],
~Or it is that moment when I get A “Hunch” [ yup that will work ]

For me it is that invisible person [ God ] sitting on my shoulder
telling me do this, don’t do that.

This gut thing is

a trust that I am making the correct decision, the right choice, selecting
the right path.

It’s

intuition, my inner guidance system. I reckon it has
always been there but I was too noisy.

My intuition is a gift, a bonus if you may, compensation for the gray
hair and wrinkles [ but that stuff doesn’t bother me ]

It has been strengthened as a result of my less is MORE mindset
and my minimalist lifestyle. It’s because in my world, my surroundings
are free of “stuff. My mind and thoughts are also free and clear of
nonsense and noise that used to drown out my gut thing.

Now don’t get me wrong.

Sometimes the guidance signal gets fuzzy and
this is when I know I am on the wrong track, I am heading
up the wrong street, the wrong way, the wrong thinking… or it could be that I have
lost perspective. I might be tired.

That in of itself tells me to Stop.

Think.
Relax.
Bring in the gratitude.
Hit the reset button.

Get back on track.

As I “mature” I am finding “my gut thing” is really invaluable. I have been
known [ but would never admit ] to talking to my gut… scary I know but
hey it works!

I am curious, do you use “ your gut thing”? Put your comments below:)

de-cluttering | the other kind as a caregiver

There are many forms of “clearing out”. Decluttering is one way:
getting rid of items that no longer have a purpose, no longer serve
you is another way. You need this clear out mindset in order to go
effectively go forward.

But

There is another form of clearing out and going forward. This
process is a bit more tricky.

This form of evolution comes after the role of caregiver is no longer yours.
And, dear reader I speak from experience.

This transition takes much longer and requires, in my opinion
courage and perseverance. For in an instant the life I knew was
changed, the years that followed, those precious caregiving years
took a toll on me. The role of caregiver was mine, and mine alone.

Stress.

When my greatest cheerleader was no longer on the physical plane I
was lost.

I did not realize this until recently.

And I can only think that it is the same for many in the same role.

It is not the “stuff” that needed to be cleared out, for me, that took
place years ago. I had to deal with the lack of purpose I felt.
Where did I now fit in? What was my new role?

And

My conclusion has been to take each day as it comes, step by
step. To set goals and go forward. I recently did this with a challenge
I gave myself in swimming. I still marvel on the feeling of
accomplishment that task gave me.

That fancy term, thrown about so often nowadays “ Self Care” really
comes into play.

Self-care comes in many forms. Sometimes it means taking a nice bath,
or a coffee in a quaint cafe. Other times,  for me it also has come to mean that quiet
reminder, that whisper in my hear ” I made a difference- look what I did”
Be proud, Stand tall”.

And

Finally, and in conclusion

Rely on friends, a good friend. For they often see things with a clearer eye. It is
as if they can see clearly because their windshield wipers are on, while your vision is clouded by the tears you still secretly cry.