fear

fear

This is going to be a longer post, fasten your seat belts, you have been warned.

I am going to write this blog post in two sections, let’s say episodes. I will tie the two together at the end, so please stick around.

Episode One.

It is said that fear is public enemy number one. Fear stops you from moving forward in life be it fear of a new job,fear of moving, fear of a relationship, fear of starting that diet or an exercising regime because you think you might fail. [ Heaven forbid ]

I get this concept and from my experiences on this planet this is true. Fear is nasty.

What about you?

I think it is so easy to disguise your fear, give it a different title or name.

“ I don’t have the time….the funds… people will laugh… I am too old… I tried “it” and it did not work..laa dee dah…”

Hogwash.

All excuses.

Now if you really don’t want to change your eating habits own up. There is nothing wrong in speaking the truth to yourself. Making excuses, to me does you more harm than good.

Episode Two

This past week I walked in front of a neighbor’s kitchen window.I live in a condo so there is a public walkway past the homes. I was telling someone that the kitchen had a window . I was unable to actually look inside as the blinds were drawn close. Nothing devious or illegal in doing in this action on my part.

The next morning I received a text

“Carolyn I am out of town and saw you were looking into my front window..is there something I can do for you?”

Nothing nasty really but well that is how I took the tone of the text.

And then it dawned on me [ slow learner ] that she obviously had a camera watching me. While on vacation this neighbor took the time to watch a recording of me walking down the corridor.

Amazing. I would not waste my time.

I guess this is something I would never do. It won’t even cross my mind.

And now>>>

In conclusion,

Now as I said last week I get the internet and all its value and I appreciate it. HOWEVER,
with it’s value comes the essence of fear.

Why would anyone, away on a holiday feel the need to monitor who comes to their front door?

Why waste your time, especially if you are far away?

Fear.

Fear that something, someone might break into their home. Fear that you might be robbed. Fear that your privacy might be invaded? I think If you are away from your home for any length of time by the time you get back the nasty deed is over.

Sadly, there are many companies that feed into that fear.

My question to you is has today’s environment, with the world wide web, increased our suspicion and our fear of each other? Has this mindset increased the negative activities in our society? Do you bring on the bad because you think about it?

Is dread,horror and anxiety marketed to us? Yes of course it is.

And

Do you draw the negativity to you? [ just like that new job you will never get because if you are honest with yourself, you never really wanted it ]

These are questions I put to you. I would love your thoughts on this topic.

Let me know below…

like a herd of cattle

Hey I am all into this internet, social media and smartphone thing.

I have made friends all over the world and have found old acquaintances from college and high school here on Facebook.[ I was not popular in high school but that is a topic for another post.]

I get the whole thing.

But here is something I don’t understand at all and it is best described in a scene that played out recently in front of my own eyes.

Recently I was at Mizner Park in Boca Raton. The “girl” and I just finished our lunch at one of the eateries and we took a seat on a bench to savor the afternoon sunshine and atmosphere.

From my right appeared four millennials – two couples walking two by two – women by women,in front of the two men by men. [ think herd of cattle ]

Heads down, all engaged with their smartphones.

No conversation.

At all.

Fast forward thirty minutes

And

Who appeared to my left…that herd of cattle.

Two couples walking the same pattern – walking two by two – women by women in front of the two men by men.

And

Not a single word spoken between them. Heads down.Tapping away.

If they were they “speaking “ with each other, I have no clue.

Now call me old fashioned [ please ] but I DO NOT GET IT.

Have we gone too far?
Has the art of simple conversation died?
Do we really no longer want to enjoy each others company?
How can a piece of machinery, a smartphone, be more interesting that a person? Hey>>>

Is eye contact a lost art?

I find this so sad, not only to the “cattle” but to society as a whole. You and I, all of us will not be around in fifty years but can you imagine what it is going to be like? It might be very quiet with the lack of decent conversation. Who knows, the human race might lose their ability to speak…

If you have read this post till the end, I would love to hear your thoughts…

a simple idea…

This past week I was shopping in a nearby big box store.  I observed something that interested me and thought I would pass this idea on to you.

As I stood in the line to make my  purchase [ turtle food for Hennrietta ] The woman in front of me was paying for several bags of bird seed.

She paid with a debit card. It is SO easy to spend with a debit/credit card… pull out the card…slide…spend…next….more.

However,

Before putting the card back in her wallet she made note in her check registry, the book that is issued when you pay with a check. YES, I know the rest of the world has probably done away with checks but we here in the USA seem to be lagging in this area.

Anyway.

I thought this was genius! A great way to be mindful of spending, time and energy used.

Now I am sure there are apps that one can use to daily track your spending but for me, having to write in a book or a registry of any kind is perfect. I have started to do this. It has caused me to be conscientious of the money I spend, in a way it slows me down and in a really strange way it is very satisfying.

Who would have known!!!

And

If you try this let me know.

less is MORE… always.

#lessismore

that “A” word

I am back.

If you follow me on Facebook you will know that I caught that darn ole flu.
“He” took me down for nearly two weeks [ I say ‘He” because I am convinced a “She” would never have made me so miserable and sick ].

During this time I discovered I have a fault. SHOCK- HORROR. Here it goes…

I tend to criticize myself far too often.

And

During this down time I learned something new I would like to share with you.

A part of my less is MORE lifestyle now includes Acceptance.

Let me explain>>>

It started out like this, the words in my head:

You have pushed yourself too hard.
This is the result.
You got sick.
You need to slow down.

New words of acceptance floating in my mind:

Carolyn,

Get over it. Get a grip.
Go with the flow.
Move on. 
This is not your fault.
You are doing and always do your best.

Now I know catching the flu is not life altering. I get it. But this lesson is HUGE for me. Don’t criticize yourself, Carolyn. It is alright. All will be fine.

Acceptance.

It is a good thing don’t you think?

the handbag

Recently I watched several episodes of “Leave it to Beaver”, the sitcom which first aired here in the USA in 1957 BC [ even Before Carolyn ].

I enjoy watching old television series because they take me back to a moment when time seemed to slow down and life was valued more. Everything seemed to be done with thought, the dress, the work, the homelife and family interaction.

Looking back, some might say those old television series were just corny. Not me.

Now trust me, I am not so naive as to believe that life was not always like this but well in my dreams and in my mind it must have been a wonderful time to live>>>

When the telephone rang someone took a message [ on paper ]
Family dinners included conversations
And Sundays were special.

A good example of this lifestyle, I believe, can be found in the role of the mother in this series, June Cleaver. The respect she was shown in the family hierarchy, manner in which she dressed, the way she prepared the evening meal with a dainty  pearl necklace … I love it.

And her
Handbag.

Today there are so many styles of handbags:

Over the body,
Hung over your back
The tote
Those wrist things

And the styles all seem to have motion in mind… run here, run there, they are utilitarian.

But in June’s wardrobe you found an elegant, graceful and charming handbag, that probably housed a handkerchief, mirror, lipstick and a few dollars. It hung delightfully on her wrist.

Ladylike.

And so when recently I cleared out a closet and found a handbag of my mother’s I immediately took possession of it.

This fits well into my less is MORE lifestyle.

Simplicity
Respect
Manners
Value.

A slower pace.

Get it? 

Do you have a memory or item that takes you back to this time? I would love to know in the comments box below.

this is not minimalism

this is NOT less is MORE.

this is just silly and has nothing
to do what I stand for.
my less is more lifestyle is realizing
that you can have a perfectly
exceptional life with less “stuff”.

less “stuff” means not only less physical items
and less “stuff’ that has no place in
your head.

and I have found out that less things
floating around in my head allows me
to grow, lead a peaceful life and bring
joy to those around me.

this is a less is more life.

#lessismore….always folks.

easing into your day

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I have a box next to my bed where I keep ideas for these
posts. I am probably like you, my greatest ideas [ so I think ]
come just as I am about to fall asleep.

You too?

I guess this is because our minds and bodies are relaxing, switching
off so to speak.

A few weeks back I wrote an article about breaking your routine
and sometimes that is a good thing, sort of an adventure. But today
I want to talk about the positive aspects of a routine.

And

Easing into your day.

I learned something recently. I have a holiday guest staying
with me for a while.

Each morning he wakes up and switches on the tablet and looks
at the news, he might turn on the radio or television AND this
is so unlike anything I do.

I ease into my day [ routine or no routine ] and I cannot
imagine starting my day any other way.

I walk Miss Evie, cause a girl has got to go after such a long
sleep.

I then do some quite meditating. A dear friend just gave me a
great app called Calm. Google it, it is great.

I then do some reading and writing [ in today’s environment it is
called journaling – but at the end of the day it is writing ] I write
my thoughts, my ideas and the people, events and things
that have brought me joy.

I ease into my day.

No loud music
No loud noise from the television.
Quiet

Now I know this is not possible for everyone. I get it>>>
But

I encourage you to ease into your day the best you can, it is so
rewarding, it is so calming and peaceful.

So

Try it and let me know in our Facebook group or hit
that reply button and fill me in.

less is more,my friend
less is more.

a balanced life

Balance.

The old me did not have a clue as to what constituted a
balanced life.

Today I woke up very early, made myself a cup of tea and
crawled back into bed to read.

The old me would never have done that.

The old me would have jumped onto computer and started to
“work”.

The old me did not realize that that sort of drive did not
produce more, but less.

Do you see a theme here?

The old me never understood that in order to succeed in
life you [ finger pointing ] you must have balance.

Balance.

Between
Family
Fun
Business
Exercise
Eating
Faith… and I could go on…

Do you live a balanced life?

so why not >>>gift ideas for Fort Lauderdale

I have a suggestion.

But first let me set the scene.

Black Friday is behind us [ don’t get me started on this one ] and the
big countdown to the December holidays.

Whether you celebrate Hanukkah, Kwanzaa or Christmas tis the season
to shop. A lot.

Crowded malls,
Crowded parking,
Crowds of people.

This year why not turn back the clocks to a time when>>>>

You made a card.
You made a gift

All by hand.
With thought
And with care.

No standing on lines
No mad dash to spend crazy amounts of money.

Simple.

Love.

Why not?

less is MORE | the coffee trick

less is more coffee

So they say drinking too much caffeine is bad for you. It
is said that consuming excess amounts of coffee or tea is
dehydrating.

And

Hey as I mature this is the last thing I want to do… we
are talking wrinkles here and well…. enough said.

So

In this battle to stay hydrated I have got into the habit of
drinking water, a lot of water.

And [ here is today’s tip ]

I use a smaller cup to drink my morning coffee. Sounds
simple but it works.

Me thinks that because there is less to drink I savor every
sip. And a bonus is because I am savoring every mouthful I tend
to drink slower.

I stop
I drink
I think

It’s a really good trick.

Let me know if you try it…

You know the drill…less is MORE…always