de-cluttering | the other kind as a caregiver

There are many forms of “clearing out”. Decluttering is one way:
getting rid of items that no longer have a purpose, no longer serve
you is another way. You need this clear out mindset in order to go
effectively go forward.

But

There is another form of clearing out and going forward. This
process is a bit more tricky.

This form of evolution comes after the role of caregiver is no longer yours.
And, dear reader I speak from experience.

This transition takes much longer and requires, in my opinion
courage and perseverance. For in an instant the life I knew was
changed, the years that followed, those precious caregiving years
took a toll on me. The role of caregiver was mine, and mine alone.

Stress.

When my greatest cheerleader was no longer on the physical plane I
was lost.

I did not realize this until recently.

And I can only think that it is the same for many in the same role.

It is not the “stuff” that needed to be cleared out, for me, that took
place years ago. I had to deal with the lack of purpose I felt.
Where did I now fit in? What was my new role?

And

My conclusion has been to take each day as it comes, step by
step. To set goals and go forward. I recently did this with a challenge
I gave myself in swimming. I still marvel on the feeling of
accomplishment that task gave me.

That fancy term, thrown about so often nowadays “ Self Care” really
comes into play.

Self-care comes in many forms. Sometimes it means taking a nice bath,
or a coffee in a quaint cafe. Other times,  for me it also has come to mean that quiet
reminder, that whisper in my hear ” I made a difference- look what I did”
Be proud, Stand tall”.

And

Finally, and in conclusion

Rely on friends, a good friend. For they often see things with a clearer eye. It is
as if they can see clearly because their windshield wipers are on, while your vision is clouded by the tears you still secretly cry.